the tides of change

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the tides of change
December 15th, 2013, 6:45 am

It apparently helps to be very open about things when all is not well... so here goes

I'm one who's been rather open about popping back drinks on a weekend and stirring up activity in the game on weekends. But lets face it, doing that every single weekend is not a good thing. I also pop drinks more often than I share. Ultimately, this is for the wrong reasons, and I can see that I'm well on the path to becoming an alcoholic. While I'm able to see this, I want to put an end to it. While I think I'm still strong enough to stop myself, I want to stop. Effective now the fridge is empty and I'm not going to restock.

So while I sit here at a breaking point... I hope nothing that I've done has negatively impacted anybody. I think I'm typically the goofy drunk and haven't offended anybody, but if I have please do say so. if I've wronged anybody say it. I've been asked by Kos and Hina to take on some more responsibility around here, and I want to handle everything in the right way, and not look to alcohol when things go astray. I want to be a stronger person for myself, and all of you without turning to easy outs.

Kos/Hina, please get rid of that lord of beer icon thing, and the lord of beer rank in the FC.

I'll accept any and all comments and criticism from all of you, don't hesitate to lay it on me.

Going forward, I still want to stir up good times in our FC, but show it can be done without alcohol. I want to lead by a better example.
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Re: the tides of change
December 15th, 2013, 2:54 pm

Speaking for myself, there was nothing you said or done that ever offended me in any way. At all.

To be honest, it was fun partying with you while you were drunk. =P

I'm sorry to hear that drinking has become a problem and wish you all of the best in your efforts to change that. :cool:

To be of any help on my end, I will no longer mention that I, myself is drunk while playing. :TBcalm:
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Re: the tides of change
December 15th, 2013, 10:40 pm

Haggar,

I agree with Ryu, and you've never caused a problem to my knowledge.

I know that coming to this kind of decision is not easy, and I know change of that magnitude is never easy. But i know that decision will have a positive effect in your life. If there is anything I can do to help, you know where I am...
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Re: the tides of change
December 16th, 2013, 9:20 pm

Haggar,

As with Ryu and Kos, I have to say, I've never felt offended by anything you've said while drunk playing.

I only have 1 piece of advice for you, and it's the same I gave to my friends in the same boat. My advice is this: Never forget that your friends (and probably family too) are here to help, feel free to talk to us, for we are a forgiving and understanding bunch.
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Re: the tides of change
December 17th, 2013, 12:20 am

Agreed with everything said above and we are most certainly your friends. You are fun no matter what and never have I been offended (except maybe once when you weren't drunk...j/k). :lol:

Here for you anytime and will take care of it.
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Re: the tides of change
December 17th, 2013, 8:32 am

Thanks everybody

This all started with an annoying commute home last Thursday. I had one of them moments of self reflection (what else was I gonna do in traffic?), and there's where I put it all together that I have to stop stuffing my fridge with beer. It's gonna be good for the wallet too to not be stocking the fridge with beer, as I don't drink cheap stuff.

If others want to pop some drinks while playing it won't bother me any. I wouldn't mind seeing the activity for myself, without being part of it :p
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Re: the tides of change
December 17th, 2013, 5:32 pm

Haggar. I know you and I barely know each other, if at all, but we're all friends here. figured i should chime in for a fellow Neko. =^-^=
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Re: the tides of change
December 17th, 2013, 6:14 pm

Haggar wrote:**snip**If others want to pop some drinks while playing it won't bother me any. I wouldn't mind seeing the activity for myself, without being part of it :p

^^^^
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Re: the tides of change
December 18th, 2013, 12:18 am

KOSMOS wrote:
Haggar wrote:**snip**If others want to pop some drinks while playing it won't bother me any. I wouldn't mind seeing the activity for myself, without being part of it :p

^^^^
This is actually quite fun...


Tea doesn't count Kos... :tgmad:
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Re: the tides of change
December 18th, 2013, 10:39 am

RyuKazuya wrote:
KOSMOS wrote:
Haggar wrote:**snip**If others want to pop some drinks while playing it won't bother me any. I wouldn't mind seeing the activity for myself, without being part of it :p

^^^^
This is actually quite fun...


Tea doesn't count Kos... :tgmad:


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Re: the tides of change
January 28th, 2014, 1:55 pm

Since posting my original post, I can gladly say there hasn't been a single beer binge (nor any other type of booze, no binges at all). I had a couple in a social scene twice, then one evening I came home and work stress was just too much and had to ease the tension with a couple. The latter is what I want to avoid, but still significant improvement over the prior almost weekly binges.
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Re: the tides of change
January 30th, 2014, 12:38 am

Good to hear. I'm glad you're doing well with it.
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Re: the tides of change
January 30th, 2014, 2:58 am

yays!! =^-^=
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Re: the tides of change
February 10th, 2014, 11:24 am

Haggar wrote:Since posting my original post, I can gladly say there hasn't been a single beer binge (nor any other type of booze, no binges at all). I had a couple in a social scene twice, then one evening I came home and work stress was just too much and had to ease the tension with a couple. The latter is what I want to avoid, but still significant improvement over the prior almost weekly binges.


Wow Haggar! Grats on being able to stick to this. I have been liquor (not beer) free for a few months, and at most I drink two beers per night. I hope you're feeling great!
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Re: the tides of change
February 10th, 2014, 11:39 am

The main thing is no more binges... they seemed like a good idea when starting but when I feel ugh for 2 days afterwards...

Lets face, I'm a major beer snob and enjoy the taste, so I can't give it up entirely but yes I do prefer the current routine of just having a couple socially, averaging out to every other weekend it seems. Saturday night though, when I had my 2 it hit me super hard, but turns out I was developing a cold :lol:
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